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Why Do You Need The Money?
In summary, at the end of a decade long undiagnosed autistic burnout, getting divorced, losing several jobs and a home, Covid hit. While homeschooling 3 kids and trying to finagle an income, I met a narcissist and within a year the abuse was physical and brutal. He kept me locked up without wifi while injured. The confusion of that coinciding with the peak of a long long burnout- took me out. In August 2021, I asked my ex husband to take the kids, and lost the apartment, and was at the abusers will. Within months both of my estranged parents died. He ensured that I had no communication or transport, abandoned me in remote places often, and was dependant on him for food. He contacted my sister (the only family I had left- WHO- was very displeased that I did not go to funerals) He told her he was “worried about me” and with my erratic and quickly declining behavior over the decade of burnout- she believed him. Then I had no where to go to escape.
Finally in March 2023- a friend from very far from home- came to rescue me. It was with her 4 autistic children that I very quickly realized what had been going on with me. That realization and the research that came afterwards taught me that I needed to advocate for my needs- to be able to keep my stress managed. My friend lives in the middle of nowhere, 4 hours away from my kids, and I was left with no possessions job transportation identifying paperwork- or even shoes. After the period of burnout/abuse/trauma- I found I had no brain thinking ability either. I was once a literal genius and now I couldn’t even seem to Google answers. I could not find a way around all of the obstacles and questions. How can I make income from the middle of nowhere? No bus no uber… If I DO find a way to make income- and save enough for an apartment and security deposit- How am I going to get an apartment without a job yet- How can I even fill out an application? And then- WHAT job am I going to do that will not kill me? I was left with something different than I had. I do not think I can be “business Cindy” like I did before. SHE is what ended up taking me out. Surely there are resources I am just unable to find?
As my thinking came back I soon discovered that no. There are absolutely not resources that can help my situation. I will not find assistance with Autism related problems. I am too old. And of the conundrums listed above- I ended up getting ghosted more than a dozen times when I asked these questions to a long list of places including Social services, victims advocates, and I think every low income/homeless agency in New York.
After I was rescued- I tried to contact my ex husband and children. Every day. In every way. He will not answer me and I cannot get access to my children. I did not LOSE access, he will just not cooperate, and has not answered me even once. I know my sister spoke with him and I *believe he thinks I am a danger to them. I tried a mediator from Family court, and he will not answer them either. I tried to get a low income lawyer, and I couldn’t even believe it so I kept proof in case others didn’t believe it too… I was ghosted 6 times by LAWYERS.
I need to BE in Buffalo. So I can get Business Cindy out and walk IN to the lawyers office. So I can be close enough to my children and in a home so that I can say COME VISIT once a lawyer tells my ex he can’t do that. It’s terrible for them. It’s illegal. I have been here for a year and 7 months, unable to overcome these obstacles, or get assistance of any kind.
What Will You Do With The Money?
$3- I will turn on a feature of my free voIP phone so that I can receive verification code texts .Then I can make a GoFundMe so that people will feel safer donating.
$500- I will get a hotel in Downtown Buffalo for 2 weekdays so I can walk into the lawyer and court and file necessary paperwork to see my children.
$50- I will activate hosting on the remaining 3 properties of the Auffice so that all joining members interests are covered in an active site and the business can officially begin.
$800- I can get a room for a whole MONTH at a motel in my kids school district and within range of public transportation- so I can get to and DO the things necessary to change my situation. DSS, doctors, lawyers, jobs, income…
$2000- Security and First Month Rent somewhere in the Elmwood area walking distance to D’Youville and within bus route to Riverside. I can’t roommate because of sensory risk. Will a landlord rent to me? Might I have to prepay a lease to get approved? I am still in the same position of no job or rental history. I do not want to wait until I have a year of self employment on the books to go home.
Then- I will be able to access the resources that are available, and straighten out my own situation just fine.
Advice & Connections to Assistance Available in New York:
Super Duper welcomed in lieu of donations. I haven’t found anyone with answers or ideas to overcome these obstacles but that doesn’t mean that nobody has an idea!
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